Sorry, hagdirt

[essentialsaltes]

So the whole Cal Godot thing on enigmachat got me all misty-eyed and nostalgic for Adam J. Bernay. Let's play internet stalker.

He's now a rabbi, conducting services for a messianic congregation that meets in his house. (Well, okay, his parents' house.)

And ladies? He's single:

"I am single, 31 years old, and looking for Miss Right. My hobbies include science fiction fandom, karaoke, and spouting opinions.

About my potential match: Ideally, I'm looking for an American Ashkenzic Messianic Jewish woman, 25-35 years old, raven-haired, dark-eyed beauty around 6 feet tall, healthy but not so thin the bones stick out, as seems to be the fashion nowadays."

Comments

[maccabee.livejournal.com]

Neither do others from Enigmachat I remain in touch with.

You mean Dan, who is your friend. He's a good friend.

And others.

Perhaps you should bring the standards of decency you use in face-to-face conversation along with you when you post?

Funny, I think I do.

[aaronjv.livejournal.com]

And others.

Like whom? Why don't you present your evidence right now, on this question?

Or are you a lying coward?

Funny, I think I do.

Funny, many other people (names mentioned above, and the people listed here, and count myself in that number), don't think you are decenct in your online discussions.

So, what do you think this means?

1. We are all lying to you. We really do think you're a swell guy, but the dybbukstwitch their tentacles around our brains, and we spew forth venomous bile.

2. We are all wrong in our opinions. We don't really know what we think or feel about you.

(This one is pretty radical, so hang on to yourself)
3. YOU are wrong about the way you handle yourself. Your own self-image is distorted, perhaps by gravity, into thinking that the arguments you engage in are really kind and respectful of other human beings, when in fact they are malicious and fallacious.

You can say that you don't give a fuck about what other people say/think about you (my MO), but you can't say that you have decent respectful conversations when so many people think you don't.

Weren't you kicked off the Enigma chat list? To my knowledge, that has only happened to TWO people in it's decade-plus long history (although there might be a third soon).
And HUNDREDS of people there have had many vehement discussions about everything. Yet it is a rare thing to get booted off, an action reserved only for the most heinous, pig-headed, villainous of souls.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Benjamin Franklin